Melissa wasnt one of my best friends but we knew eachother from school and we had mutual friends. Two days before she died I hungout with her and we had a really deep talk and she told me many things that she said she hadnt told anyone before. We connected in a weird way that night and I felt like I had known her all my life. On decemeber 14th at about 8:30 Melissa's sister found Melissa hanging in her closet. At the time Melissa was watching her neice who is only 4 years old, she was asleep on the bed. Melissa's sister called for her step dad doug and took her daughter out of the room. Doug gave her cpr but couldnt get her to respond. When I found out I cried, I didnt understand why she would commit suicide....no note....not a word of goodbye. Two weeks had past and we all gathered for her funeral, it was a viewing. I walked up and she looked nothing like herself......she looked....dead. After her funeral things went back to normal but I still thought about her everyday and it started to affect how I acted around people and my emotions,I just couldnt get over the fact that she was gone. Things started to get really weird, one night I was at my house alone and I was taking a shower and I turned off the water and I heard "HELLO?" and it was her voice. I stayed in the bathroom for 2 hours until my mom got home. I cried and told her what I heard and she said I was just emotional. I believed her until I started seeing her. She never moved until recently. This last time I saw her I was waiting outside for a friend, It was about 9:00 at night. I looked over at these mailboxes and it looked normail but I saw hair above them but it was dark and I thought I was just seeing things. I turned away but when I looked back it moved, she started walking towards me and I thought it was just one of my friends trying to scare me but when she got closer one of the house lights hit her face and it was Melissa. I couldnt move, but I looked over and my friend was hopping over the wall. I looked back at her and she looked at me, at my friend, then she ran. I freaked out. I was use to seeing her, but she had never moved....not once! Now shes moving and I'm afraid that she is gonna try to talk to me. I dont know why I see her, but I know bad stuff happens when I do. I dont know what to do, im scared...and I feel like she is trying to tell me something but I dont know what. I need help, my day to day life has changed alot...I cant go out at night by myself,and I cant sleep in my room...I cant even be in the dark. I'm only 17, I dont want to live my whole life scared of her.I just need help finding out what she wants.
This loss was truly tragic. I was reading something about it elsewhere. More than one life was clearly affected. First before anything else, it's important to know that if you are in fact seeing an apparition of your late friend, that she is there to communicate with you not to hurt you.
The fact that 'bad things happen' when you see her is likely more a coincidence than anything else.
She may be trying to tell you why she hung herself, since there was no suicide note. There are several things you can do that may be helpful. The first is not to panic. Deal with the apparition as you would were she alive. You weren't afraid of her then right? So why should you be now?
You are young highly suggestable. In other words, you are at a point in your life where everything is about as dramatic as it will likely get. This is normal. It will change. And it's important to realize that.
It is slightly possible that, for some reason, you are actually seeing her only in your mind's eye, and there is no apparition. The illusion is perfect when this happens. It's hard to separate a true apparition from this type of event.
If there is a reason for an apparition to be there, it is either to communicate with you or simply to assure you that she is okay. We call these 'post-mortem' apparitions. They appear normally to those who knew them in life and usually are gone after one or two appearances.
If it continues to appear and it is a true apparition, there is something she is trying to communicate. If you can perceive nothing when she appears and you have calmed yourself, even though you may think she's there in reality she likely is not.
I would not suggest you seek out a 'psychic' or 'medium' in this case. First, it would be a waste of money and most would want to charge you. Second, the sensitive would have to actually be in touch with Melissa, and this can be quite difficult to verify. I do research on mediums, how they work and think. I can assure you it is complex, and it is not something you can do at least at this point in your life.
So my bottom line suggestions: relax, don't let what you think is an apparition scare you, learn to calm yourself in its presence (if it appears again), listen for messages in your mind when it is present, accept nothing as fact until you can verify it, and above all realize that this will pass and you will very likely lead a normal life going forward.
I wish you the best of luck. If this persists, please let me know on this thread however I'm confident you can handle this once your fear of the unknown is under control.
I think that your friend was trying to get help in a sence,that she felt so safe with being honest with you thats why she still feels that she can talk to you. She killed herself for a reason,maybe shes still asking you for help.
She died to young that she still needs to communicate that she has unfinished business,perhaps, communicating to her family why she did it, why she felt that she couldn't come to family, that she thought that suecide was her escape from her pain?
These are questions you can ask her using a recorder(tape) and that can be a way you can tell you mother you are in fact communicating with your decesed friend.
Remember, here spirit isn't there to hurt you, shes there to communicate with you. Thie question is: What does she want to say?
Kristine80 pixiedustgurl6993@yahoo.com SCL, utah PS keep us posted
I am Melissa's ex boy friend, I spent one day with her precisley 3 weeks before her death. Or if thats not correct it was the weekend when her mom had to go to a funeral for her grandma or grandpa who past away, and she didn't feel like going with. When I picked her up she was just getting off of work at the itallian fast food restaurant next door to blockbuster. We were scheduled to go see a movie, though instead we ended up watching one at my house. She explained to me how she still loved me, and wanted me back, but then she said she had this drug dealing b/f who had her under a leash, and threatnes to kill her if she were to ever break up with him.
So she told me she doesn't want anything to do with me anymore, but was happy she could spend one last day with me. I was confused. When we left my house together I bought her something to eat at wendy's then drove her back to her neighborhood. She was kind of pyronoid that her b/f might be in front of her house so she had me drop her off in the parking lot where this shed is located next to the golf course. We talked and kissed for approx... 15 minutes or so, then she said i'll never forget you babe.
She got out and I watched her as she walked away she looked back 3 times then blew me a kiss. All I could think about was is this really the last time well speak, and is she gonna kill herself. Because when i broke up with her in the past she cut her wrist, and anything is possible with Melissa. That same evening she called me and told me that her b/f was in front of her house, and asked where she was at. she then told me he made her strip so that he could smell her. And she said no, and then he forced her to the extent where she couldn't do a damn thing about it.
She was in tears as it seemed from the crackle of her voice when i picked up. She said he got mad and left without saying goodbye. I was attending Desert Hills High School when Brittany Braley her friend walked up to me, and when i heard her say melissa's name I knew it was something tragic. To this day I wish I could have just not taken her back home that day because i was her first love, and she was mine. She will be missed.
Last Edited by REALINSTATE on Nov 12, 2006 4:58 PM
I feel your pain. The same type of thing happened to me when I was in 7th grade. My best friend came back to tell me she was ok. Since then I realized that I am a medium and I can allow spirits to take over my body to rest or be in peace or whatever they would like. Tonight I will try to contact her spirit and let her know its ok and im there for her. I will let her know she is missed and I will let her take over my body whenever she needs to if she is still bound to earth. Any other messages you want her to know please post after this posting.
Melissa did not kill herself. She was murdered, how do i know this, well she told me her father threatned her to the extent if she were ever caught stealing her fathers bi polar medication ever again. He never got along with her, and really he is gonna pay for who he took out of my life forever. Im coming for you so watch your back
It's probably too late but I just wanted to let Melissa know that her friend Robyn from Pennsylvania has missed her since she moved to Arizona and I'm always thinking of her.
What the fuck r u people talking about? Who is REALINSTate? First of all her stepdad is not bipolar and he did not kill her! I was there. He nevered threatened to kil her. Before u run ur mouth u need to know what ur talking about. Do u think her family appreciates that qiant wad of bullshit on the internet! Melisa didnt hadnt worked for quizno for over like 10 months when that happened! Ur story is BULLSHIT!! U guys don't even have the story right the night it happened
